Daily mantra...

Stay clean, stay calm, stay sharp, stay still,

Finish it all, then act with will.

Help if you can, cause no delay.

Work with control, let others their way.

A Libran, on the balance of relationships...

 

On the Balance of Relationships

A reflection on intimacy, finances, children, and wealth

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1. The Subtle Imbalance

Most relationships do not collapse overnight through betrayal or dramatic failure. They weaken through a simple imbalance of priorities. Two people come together to share life, intimacy, and experiences, yet over time the relationship becomes overshadowed by distractions — television, money, or even children.

When the base relationship of husband and wife is not protected, everything else begins to unravel.

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2. Intimacy vs. Sedation

Intimacy is not complicated. It rarely requires more than half an hour, sometimes only minutes, yet it provides immense physical, emotional, and spiritual benefit. Despite this, intimacy is often resisted or treated as a burden, while hours of passive entertainment — sometimes two, four, or six each night — are indulged without question.

This contradiction is obvious: health, connection, and vitality are exchanged for sedation. Even those who counsel others on health can find themselves acting contrary to what they teach.

Intimacy is not optional decoration in a relationship. It is one of the central exchanges that sustains trust and connection.

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3. Finances: Love or Ledger?

Another area of imbalance is money. A partner may cover $400–$500 each week in food, travel, and necessities, yet still be expected to contribute heavily to shared costs. If every contribution is measured against a ledger, the relationship becomes a business contract, not a marriage.

True partnership is more than figures. It includes years of weekly payments, the unseen work of maintaining a household, servicing vehicles, and providing consistent support. If, after such contributions, a partner is still treated as indebted rather than valued, love has already been replaced by accountancy.

There are also inconsistencies. Sometimes space is granted for one partner to pursue personal services or commitments, with the understanding that certain costs will be covered. Yet later, that allowance is withdrawn, as though conditions are being set to ensure failure. This does not build trust — it lays traps.

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4. Children and the Balance of Privileges

The imbalance shows itself again with children. When adults give up their privileges to the young — sleeping with them every night or letting them dictate schedules — the child is not strengthened but spoiled.

As LRH writes in Raising Children (pp. 93–102), granting children seniority over adults robs them of the need to grow up. Why would they wish to act like adults if they already rule as children? The consequence is insecurity for the child and instability for the couple. Adults must remain adults, or no one benefits.

This is not a small issue. Many break-ups stem from such misplaced priorities. Analytically, it is clear that TV, finances, or children should never dominate the second dynamic — husband and wife. Yet reactively, the bank pushes for imbalance so that destruction is victorious.

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5. The Cycle of Loneliness

The cycle is common:

• A person lives alone and travels, wishing for someone to share life with.

• They find a partner, yet soon prioritise money, conditions, or outside demands above the relationship.

• Before long, they are back where they began — travelling alone, yearning for companionship.

Unless the dynamic of freely giving, freely sharing, and protecting the relationship is embraced, this cycle repeats endlessly.

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6. Wealth: A Question of Purpose

Finally comes the issue of wealth. If one is not willing to share freely with their intimate partner, who will they share it with? Is wealth only to be hoarded, passed down to the next generation with no guarantee it will be used wisely?

And if one returns in another body, what prevents them from being born into a different family line entirely? If so, what value was the hoarded wealth?

If spiritual ability and health are in order, then accumulation for its own sake is meaningless. Wealth should be used to live, to create, and to strengthen the dynamics of life — not as a game where the one who dies with the most “wins.”

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7. The Lesson

A relationship cannot thrive where:

• Ledger-keeping replaces giving.

• Intimacy is withheld while sedation is indulged.

• Children are made senior to adults.

• Wealth is hoarded instead of shared.

True partnership requires adults who remain adults, who give freely, who share what they have, and who protect the second dynamic as the stable base from which all else flows.

Suppression...

We're always aware of suppression on ourselves from others, but what about the other aspects of our lives?

Firstly, if you weren't aware of why you get sick, pay attention to the people around you and the effect they have on you... keep an eye out for any suppression and watch what happens.

If you've experienced suppression and sickness and recognise this, I have something to share...

It's clearly obvious, but just occurred to me, what about suppression towards my family? Group? Efforts towards mankind? My things? 

I am doing well warding off suppression on myself and rarely get sick, but then realised, not so with some other areas of my life, and those areas are actually sick!!

I think this opens a new gate for me... I've learn't how to handle suppression on myself and I know what to do, but now with this realisation, I think I can start to release it off other areas of my life.

And of course who puts the suppression there? It appears to come from others, but who puts it there? Me of course... mind-blow!!

I'm ready.

Blade

Joking aside...

All joking aside...

Seriously... keep it out.

The world is in a too fragile state to joke about anyone.

As playful as you may be and well-spirited, most are not in that place and while on the surface appear to accept and handle your joking, in reality they can't handle it and almost always will go into secret retribution.

For best results, keep in your politeness with others and joking aside.

Thus we have what we have today... many finally coming out and expressing their unwillingness to play and it doesn't come out in a friendly manner, but in a vicious defensive/offensive stance against thee.

Best to make non-personal jokes... about things and non-human entities, no need for any defence in this case or any feeling of rejection, defencelessness or a need to attack.

Keep it polite and we may reach a new height.

Roasting is toasting your fellow man however fun and playful it may seem it is putting in place a game where it builds a vicious 'I' in the word team.

Blade

Just a few things...

Sooo many things thrown at you in this modern world!!

Sooo easy to take up thing after thing after thing!!

Pick just a few things and stick to them.

Life may seem long when you're young, but it quickly goes quickly.

Leave a legacy, leave something that was worthwhile and provides something to someone.

With the many things it becomes much harder to do that.

Pick the few and work them over and over to give them worth, value and proof of thorough consideration... perhaps then some admiration will come your way.

What are your few?

Blade

For where you feel best...

Is it on the coach watching a movie?

Is it in the kitchen cooking?

Is it out in the garage fiddling?

Is it out on the bike riding?

Recall though... it's not just about you.

It's of you, your family, your friends, mankind, the planet, life in general and the eventual return and knowing of where one came from.

So what are you doing that includes and satisfies all of these?

That is the question...

Blade

Meaning...

I think we're all searching for meaningful action in our lives.

If we're not searching or moving with meaning, I think we've given up or decided to put it on hold for now.

I think it needs to be sought immediately, as early as possible. I think age will debilitate ability to find meaning later on in life that will actually be valuable. 

Sure, you'll find meaning at all times in differing amounts but I'm referring to that meaning that will free you from your chains for not only this life but many to follow.

We have a semi peaceful time right now to follow meaningful paths of discovery that will shape us for many lives coming.... haste not.

Blade